Original Publication Information:
Suedomsa the Magazine April 1998 Volume One,
Issue Nine
Dating in the City of Sin by Christy Tobin
So I have finally been influenced by my peer writers, who seem only to
write about the woes of past relationships with the opposite sex. I was
also influenced to write this article after spending a couple of evenings
in the bar/club atmosphere of Las Vegas.
Maybe it was just me but people used to say to me that 'you'll meet
someone in high school.' I lived through high school and never met
anyone. Then I was told in high school that I would meet someone in
college. Well, I am now a senior graduating in May and I still haven't
met that person that everybody is talking about. I wonder if I am the
only one having this problem?
There were some flirtations freshman year, but nothing ever materialized.
Since then I guess no one has really caught my interest. I really don't
meet that many people in classes and my core group of friends are people
I've know since freshman year. So I have experimented within the last few
months to try and meet new people. This has not been easy nor has it been
much fun. I have visited the intimate bars and no one who doesn't know
you will talk to you. And then I have tried the clubs, but people there
are sloshed out of their mind and don't have enough substance to try and
get to know. So where do you go to meet decent, friendly people? I still
have not figured this out.
My second concern is why do so many people find these activities worth the
try. Everybody talks up how much fun the clubs are, but when you are
actually there it's just a bunch of people standing around schmoozing with
one another. Most are only interested in one night fling, but those lead
nowhere. You usually can't go to these places by yourself, so you have to
pull someone kicking and screaming to go with you. And when you are ready
to go they aren't or when they're ready you aren't. I guess my point is
that clubs and bars are not all they are cracked up to be, and if you
aren't going you are not missing out.
So I have become content to maintain my relationships with dorm-friends
from freshman year and to hang out with people I work with. Our goals and
interests are similar enough that they fulfill most of the free time I
have. I guess meeting the right person will come at the time it is
suppose to. And until then everybody will still be talking.
